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Success in Self-Control

HABITS/Success in Self-Control

All habits have the following characteristics in common.        

They occur with regularity,  Happen without thinking,  Reflect inner morals, Tend to grow stronger and more ingrained over time,  Persist and become hard to change,  Provide some degree of pleasure. “No servant can serve two masters.  Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.”  “You cannot serve both God and money.”  Luke 16:13

What Are The Signs of an Unhealthy Habit?  

· My thoughts are consumed with it.· My time is scheduled around it.· My health could be harmed by it.· My guilt increases following it.·My finances are affected by it.· I am defensive when asked about it.· My relationships are hurt by it.· I am upset when I can’t do it.

“Search me O God, and know my heart..see if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”  Psalm 129:23-24

What fuels negative habits?

Misguided choices-Choosing to escape from painful emotions and experiences in an attempt to avoid harsh realities of life.

Misplaced dependencies-Attempting to meet your God given emotional needs for love, significance and security through unhealthy dependencies on people, things or activities.

Misguided beliefs-Telling Yourself, “This makes me feel better and besides, I deserve it.  OR it’s useless to try to change or quit.”

What is a Healthy and Godly Approach to Self Control Issues?

1.Choosing to meet the harsh realities of life by processing painful emotions and circumstances. 2.Depending upon the Lord to meet your needs for love, significance and security.  3.Believing that you can take responsibility for your behavior because you have the spirit of Christ living in you to help you.

How Can Faith Help You Overcome Bad Habits?

Colossians 1:27-YOU are not alone during times of temptation, as a Christian you have the power of Christ within you.

How Do You Improve Self-Control?

·Restraining desires that pull you down. · Start with commitment to God. · Separate yourself from sin.  ·Set a new goal.  · Stand on the truth.  · Substitute God’s thoughts for your thoughts.  ·Surrender your will.·Stay on track.

How Do you Replace Bad Habits with Good Habits?

Put on the habit of faith-Romans 10:17, Romans 4:20

Put on the Habit of Goodness-Matthew 12:34, 35, 1 Timothy 6:18

Put on the Habit of Knowledge-2 Timothy 2:15, Proverbs 12:1

Put on the Habit of Perseverance-James 12:3,, James 1:4

Put on the Habit of Godliness-1 Timothy 6:10-11, 2 Peter 1:3

Put on the Habit of Brotherly Kindness-Romans 12:10, 13

Put on the Habit of Love-1 John 4:10, John4:15

How Is it Possible to Change Habits Reflecting a Negative Childhood Mindset?

Sow the seeds of moral sensitivity-Psalm 119:11

Sow the seeds of gratefulness-1 Thessalonians 5:18

Sow the seeds of forgiveness-Colossians 3:13

Sow the seeds of selflessness-Philippians 2:3

Sow the seeds of communion with God-Psalm 104:34